Kwesi is a Ghanaian currently living in the UK. His father passed away at the end of 2018, and he travelled to Ghana in March 2019 for the funeral. After the burial, he decided to stay a bit longer to follow up on his father’s business. During that period, he entered a new relationship which made him extend his stay in Ghana. He felt strongly connected to the lady and believed he had met his future wife, so he stayed for a full year to study the relationship.
In an interview with DJ Nyaami on Matter Dey, Kwesi explained that he planned to marry her because she was a good woman, religious, and committed. When COVID hit in 2020, their plans delayed, but he eventually married her in 2022 and brought her to the UK in 2023. He supported her with job applications and secured a spouse visa for her. Within two weeks, she got a well-paying job.
Kwesi said he intentionally chose to marry a Black woman because he had seen many marriages between Africans and white partners fail. They agreed that after she obtained her British passport—about ten years—they would return to Ghana. However, after she arrived in the UK, she told him she would “think about it.”
Kwesi lives in Birmingham, but for her to find a better job, they moved to London (Zone 2). That’s when he noticed changes. She began coming home late, and whenever he complained, she would record him. Eventually, the situation stressed him so much that he lost his job and fell into depression. He says after about three months her behaviour completely changed. When he suggested they move back to Birmingham because of high bills, she refused.
Their disagreements escalated, and at one point the police were called. She presented voice recordings to the police—recordings she had intentionally made during arguments. Kwesi admits that in one heated moment he threatened to slap her, and she used that against him. She blocked him afterwards.
In June this year, she sent him divorce papers. He agreed to the divorce, and she blocked him on all platforms. He left London and returned to Birmingham.
Kwesi now believes he rushed the marriage and regrets bringing her to the UK. He says he didn’t take enough time to truly know her before committing. He also gave her access to his salary because he trusted her, but feels it was a mistake.
He advises men to be cautious about travelling to Ghana just to marry, saying many women present themselves as religious and conservative but change once they arrive in the UK. He claims some Ghanaian women come mainly for opportunities like education and visas.
Despite everything, he still believes marrying a Black woman is better for him than marrying a white woman. He also revealed that he dropped out of school because of the stress from the marriage. When he begged his ex-wife for reconciliation, she told him she needed a year to think about it—something he describes as heartless. He added that people can apply for a domestic abuse visa and get permanent stay, and believes his ex-wife managed to divorce him less than a year after arriving.
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