Maame Betty, a Ghanaian living in the UK, recently appeared on SVTV Africa’s Daily Hustle Worldwide show with DJ Nyaami, where she opened up about her views on marriage and relationships.
According to Betty, many people enter marriage with the wrong expectations — particularly financial ones. “Marriage is not a financial breakthrough,” she emphasized. “It’s a stage in life where you find a friend to journey with. If you carry all your burdens into it hoping they’ll disappear, you’ll end up disappointed.”
She explained that love in marriage evolves over time.
“The love that begins a marriage doesn’t stay the same after five or ten years. Marriage is a process. No one stays in marriage for 30 years without going through ups and downs. Some women enter marriage expecting financial support, and when it doesn’t come, they leave.”
Betty also touched on the importance of mindset, especially for women.
“If a hardworking woman makes money but refuses to support her husband or children, it’s a problem. Some of us were raised to believe we don’t use our money to support men. But honestly, it’s better to be with a woman who has no money but offers encouragement than one who is wealthy and selfish.”
She stressed the need to understand your partner’s intentions.
“People marry for different reasons — some out of hunger, others for true companionship. Know why your partner wants to marry you. If you abandon a man at his lowest point, and he recovers, don’t expect the same love from him.”
Betty didn’t shy away from addressing sexual dynamics in marriage either.
“Some men believe if they are satisfied sexually, their wives are too. But women often become overwhelmed with raising kids and lose interest in sex. After childbirth, the desire drops, and sometimes we even forget to bathe because of the stress.”
She shared a story about a woman whose marriage fell apart because she was misled into believing that sex should only happen when money is exchanged or special rituals are done.
“For two years, her husband didn’t touch her. He said he’d rather buy four pieces of cloth and go to Ashaiman Line than beg her. That marriage collapsed.”
Betty warned against turning intimacy into a transaction.
“A woman shouldn’t demand money before having sex with her husband. Men also need to help out at home — not just expect affection while their wives are drained from caring for the kids.”
She added,
“If your man says ‘I’ve married my job,’ and he chases money without building a bond with you, what happens when he finally gets the money? Some women abroad boast about not needing men, but now they’re depressed, despite having it all. Many divorced people never accept their part in the failure.”
For Betty, marriage is a continuous learning journey. “No one is an expert in marriage. Every stage teaches you something new. Stop judging others — we’re all growing.”
She concluded with advice for young women:
“Listen to motivational speakers and marriage counselors. I once heard someone say marriage isn’t for everyone — yet today, I’m happily married. Even most feminists are now married. Don’t blindly follow trends. Build your own truth.”
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