Afua, a Ghanaian woman based in the United Kingdom, appeared on SVTV Africa’s Daily Hustle Worldwide show with DJ Nyaami, where she shared her emotional story and offered a heartfelt warning to women who are eager to marry “borgas” (Ghanaians living abroad).
“I want to advise women who target men abroad just to migrate. Some of these men have deep-seated childhood traumas and can end up abusing you,” she cautioned.
Afua recounted how she met her husband while studying at a tertiary institution in Ghana. Her parents were already living in the UK and had tried to bring her over, but the process was unsuccessful. During that time, she met her future husband, who frequently visited Ghana.
“He was in the British Army and once brought me to meet his family in Ghana. I was young and excited that a ‘borga’ wanted to marry me, so I overlooked all the red flags,” she said.
After completing university, Afua married him and joined him in the UK without doing her national service. But her dream soon turned into a nightmare.
“When I got pregnant, his true nature started to show. He was narcissistic, controlling, and constantly cheating with other women. I later realized he was living off my salary — I became the man of the house,” she revealed.
Afua battled postpartum challenges but found strength in her mother, who was also in the UK. Hoping to help her child’s speech development, she planned a short visit to Ghana, but during that time, she discovered shocking details about her husband’s infidelity.
“While I was in Ghana, I heard rumors that he was planning to marry another woman. He asked me to send our child’s British passport, but someone warned me not to — that he might leave me stranded in Ghana. So, I refused,” she recalled.
When her husband returned to Ghana, he pretended to reconcile but later returned her drinks (a traditional sign of divorce in Ghana). Afua cooked for him, even gave him £1,000, and quietly booked an early flight back to the UK.
“When I returned in December, I found that he had locked me out. I called a locksmith to open the door and saw that he had packed all my things. My phone was also blocked,” she recounted.
Afua later learned that her husband had impregnated another woman in Ghana and visited her family to formalize their relationship. When he eventually returned to the UK, she pretended not to know what had happened.
“He had received compensation from the Army, so he didn’t support me with child benefits. I used the money for my child. Later, I reported him, and he was arrested,” she said.
Her husband later tried to manipulate her mentally, even sending her to a psychiatric evaluation. Eventually, he removed her from his visa, forcing her to seek legal help.
“I was his dependent, but with the help of lawyers, I got indefinite leave to remain. We later divorced, and the court awarded his house to me and our child,” Afua explained.
Her ex-husband has since moved out and now lives with the woman he allegedly cheated with — a student he brought to the UK. They have been together for five years.
“He later tried to come back to me, but I refused. When I found out he lied to the girl’s family that he wasn’t married, I even sent pastors to speak with them. But by then, they had already given their daughter to him,” she added.
Afua’s story serves as a powerful cautionary tale about love, trust, and the hidden struggles behind some “abroad” marriages. She encouraged women to be discerning, patient, and to seek true partnership — not just the dream of relocating overseas.
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